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The Three Levels of Marriage: What Stage Are You At?

It’s no secret that marriage takes work. But many people don’t realize that there are three different levels of marriage, and each one requires a different kind of effort. If you’re not putting in the necessary work for your level of marriage, things can get pretty uncomfortable. So, what are the three levels of marriage? And which one do you fall into? Keep reading to find out…

The first level of marriage:

The first level of marriage is often referred to as the honeymoon stage. This is when everything is new and exciting, and you can’t get enough of each other. You are still getting to know each other and creating a strong bond that will last a lifetime.

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Most people believe that the first level of marriage is the hardest. After all, it’s a time of adjustment as you get used to living with another person. There are new dynamics at play, and you’re still becoming better acquainted.

This is the time when you are creating all the memories that you will look back on fondly in the future. You might not realize it at the time, but this is the most important phase of your relationship. It’s when you lay the foundation for your future life.

You may have different ideas about household chores, child-rearing, and finances; there may be arguments and misunderstandings. But if you can get through this stage, you will be on your way to a strong and lasting relationship.

However, there are also a lot of positives in those early days of marriage.

There’s a sense of enthusiasm and possibility, and you’re building a strong foundation for your future together. To survive the first level of marriage, it’s important to focus on the positive aspects and work through the challenges together.

The key is to communicate openly and honestly with each other. Don’t be afraid to express your needs and wants. And don’t forget to show your love and appreciation for each other. With time and patience, you will overcome the obstacles of the first level of marriage and move on to a more fulfilling relationship.

 Here are some tips for how to survive the first level of marriage:

  • Try to remember why you got married in the first place. It can be easy to forget why you’re even together when things get tough. Reminding yourself of why you fell in love can help you get through the tough times.
  • Communicate with your partner. If something is bothering you, don’t bottle it up. Talk to your partner about it so that you can resolve the issue.
  • Be willing to compromise. You and your spouse will not always agree on everything, but it’s important to be ready to meet in the middle. 
  • Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Make sure you’re maintaining a healthy lifestyle and taking time for yourself when needed.
  • Be patient. Don’t expect everything to be perfect right away. It takes time to truly get to know someone, so be patient and enjoy the journey.
  • Seek support. Talk to friends or family members who have been married for a while. They can offer valuable advice and understanding.
  • Have fun! Enjoy this special time in your life. Go on date nights, take mini-vacations together, and create cherished memories.

The second level of marriage:

Marriages are like onions; they have layers. The first layer of marriage is the lovey-dovey, hearts, and flowers stage. This is when you’re head over heels for each other and can’t imagine spending a day without them. You’ll do anything to make each other happy and would rather spend your time with them than with anyone else. This stage usually lasts around two years.

The second stage of marriage is when the rose-tinted glasses start to come off, and you begin to see your partner’s flaws. It’s not that you don’t love them anymore, but you’re more aware of their imperfections. This can be difficult to get through, but it’s important to remember that everyone has flaws and that nobody is perfect. If you can get through this stage, you’ll be well on your way to a happy and long-lasting marriage.

When couples reach the second level of marriage, they often find that they are much more satisfied with their relationship. This is because they have learned how to communicate effectively and resolve conflict. They have also developed a deeper level of trust and intimacy.

This level is built on trust, mutual respect, and a shared commitment to each other’s happiness. It’s a level that can take years to achieve, but it’s worth the effort. Marriage at this level is a true partnership, the key to a lifetime of happiness. As a result, the second level of marriage is often when couples feel the most connected to each other.

If you’re struggling in the second level of marriage, it’s important to seek help from a therapist or counselor. They can help you learn how to communicate better and resolve conflict. They can also provide guidance on how to strengthen your relationship.

Some tips for how to survive the second level of marriage:

  • Make time for each other. When you’re in the early stages of marriage, it’s easy to get caught up in the everyday hustle and bustle. But as you move into the second level, it’s important to make time for each other. Schedule regular date nights, take weekend getaways, and make sure you’re staying connected.
  • Communicate, communicate, communicate. One of the most important things you can do in the second level of marriage is to communicate with your partner. If something is bothering you, don’t bottle it up. Talk to your partner about it so that you can resolve the issue.
  •  Don’t take anything for granted. Just because things were tough in the first level doesn’t mean they’ll be any easier in the second. In fact, they might even be harder. So don’t take anything for granted, and be prepared for anything.
  • Stay focused on your goals. It’s easy to get sidetracked in the second level and forget what you were trying to accomplish in the first place. So stay focused on your goals, and don’t let anything distract you from them.
  • Make sure you have a good support system in place. Things will get tough at times, and you’ll need all the support you can get. So make sure you have a good support system in place before things start getting tough.
  • Keep your sense of humor intact. This one is important because things will get tough at times, and you’ll crack under pressure if you don’t have a sense of humor. So find ways to keep your sense of humor intact no matter what happens.

The third level of marriage:

The third level of marriage is where two people commit not only to each other but also to a shared purpose or goal. This could be anything from raising a family to pursuing a joint business venture. Whatever the goal, both partners must work together towards a common goal. While this level of marriage is not for everyone, it can be incredibly rewarding for those couples who can find a shared purpose. When two people are committed to each other and work towards a common goal, they can achieve things they never thought possible.

At this stage, couples often must decide whether they are willing to work through their differences or if they would be better off going their separate ways. Those willing to put in the effort may find their relationship stronger than ever. However, those who are not prepared to make such a commitment may find themselves heading for divorce.

At this level of marriage, you reach a point where you’re more friends than anything else. You know each other inside out and are comfortable just being together. You don’t need fancy dates or grand gestures; being together is enough. This level of marriage is built on trust, respect, and friendship. It may not be as exciting as the early days of marriage, but it’s deeper and stronger. If you can reach this level with your spouse, you’ll have a marriage that will last a lifetime.

Some tips for how to survive the third level of marriage:

  • Try to remember why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place.
  • Be patient and understanding when your spouse is having a bad day – we all have them from time to time.
  • Communicate openly and honestly with each other about your needs and expectations.
  • Make sure to spend some quality time together – even if it’s just watching your favorite TV show or going for a walk around the block.
  • Make concessions for each other – sometimes, the little things mean the most.
  • Try to laugh together as much as possible – humor is a great way to diffuse tension and keep things in perspective.
  • Make sure to keep doing things that make you both happy.

To consider:

  • What is your shared goal or purpose? What are you working towards together?
  • Do you have a good support system in place? Who do you turn to when things get tough?
  • Do you still make time for each other even though you’re both busy with your own lives?
  • Do you try to keep things exciting and fresh, or has your relationship become stagnant?
  • What do you do to ensure you’re both happy in the relationship?

No matter your marriage stage, it’s important to be mindful of your partner’s needs and wants. A happy and healthy marriage requires work from both partners. If you’re unsure of where your relationship is, take some time to sit down and talk about it with your spouse. Communication is key to a lasting marriage.

If you struggle in your marriage, there is no shame in seeking help from a professional. Marriage counseling can be a great way to get both partners on the same page and work through any issues that may be present. Sometimes, it takes a little help to get your marriage back on track.


Which level do you think your marriage falls into? Which level best describes your marriage? How have you seen yourself (and your spouse) grow over time?

Knowing what stage your relationship is at will help you make decisions about it in the future. If you would like more information or advice about marriages at any stage, please don’t hesitate to contact us for help! Leave a comment below or find us on social media to continue the conversation.