When I was younger, I used to dream about my wedding day. I would imagine walking down the aisle in a beautiful dress, with my friends and family looking on. I thought about the kind of husband I wanted and what our life would be like together.
As it turns out, marriage is nothing like what I imagined! In this blog post, we will discuss some things that you should know before getting married. We will talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly! So if you are thinking about getting married someday, make sure to read this post!
You will argue a lot.
Before I got married, I thought that my spouse and I would never fight. We would always agree, and if we didn’t, we would calmly discuss our differences and come to a compromise. Of course, I was young and naïve.
I quickly learned that marital bliss is not always smooth sailing. There are times when it feels like all we do is argue.
We argue about big and small things, about serious topics and trivial matters. It can be frustrating and overwhelming, but it’s also perfectly normal.
Disagreements are inevitable, but that doesn’t mean they have to ruin your relationship. What’s important is how you handle those arguments. If you can learn to communicate effectively and resolve conflicts constructively, you will be in good shape.
Arguing can be healthy for your marriage. It shows that you’re willing to stand up for yourself and fight for what you believe in. And as long as you approach arguments with respect and an open mind, they can help you grow closer as a couple. So, no matter how much you love your spouse, you will have disagreements. It’s normal, and it might even be good for you!
You will change, and so will they.
People change over time, and that includes married couples. When you first get married, you’re still getting to know each other. You’re learning about their likes and dislikes, their habits and quirks. But as time goes on, you will continue to change and grow as an individual. And so will they.
This can be both good and bad. On the one hand, it’s wonderful to see your partner grow and change for the better. But on the other hand, it can be difficult to adjust when they start doing things that are different from what you’re used to.
It’s important to remember that change is a natural part of life, and it’s okay if you and your spouse don’t always see eye-to-eye. What matters is that you’re both willing to adapt and compromise. As long as you can do that, you’ll be able to weather any changes that come your way.
You will have to work at it.
When you’re first married, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that your relationship will just “work.” You love each other, so everything should be perfect, right?
Wrong. Even the happiest and most compatible couples have to work on their marriage. It takes effort to maintain a healthy and happy relationship. If you want your marriage to last, you need to be willing to work on communication, compromise, and respect.
This doesn’t mean that you have to spend every waking minute thinking about your relationship. But it does mean that you should make an effort to connect with your spouse regularly.
Whether going on date nights, taking walks together, or just sitting down and talking about your day, make sure you’re taking the time to nurture your relationship. You have to make time for each other, even when you’re busy. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it.
You will need to compromise on a lot of things.
In marriage, there will be many things that you and your spouse will have to compromise on. From big decisions like where to live and whether or not to have kids to small things like what color to paint the walls and where to go on vacation, you’ll need to learn how to negotiate with each other.
For example, maybe you want to spend every weekend exploring new hiking trails, but your spouse would rather stay home and relax. I’m sure you can think of a million other examples, but the point is that you will both have to be willing to give and take. It’s not always fair, but it’s necessary if you want your marriage to work.
No matter how much you love your spouse, there will be times when you don’t see eye-to-eye. That’s normal. What’s important is that you’re both willing to work through those disagreements.
If you can do that, you will have a happy and healthy marriage. It can be difficult at times, but remember that compromise is necessary for any relationship. If you’re both willing to give and take, you’ll be able to find a middle ground on just about anything.
If you have kids, your marriage will change.
If you have kids, your marriage will definitely change. That’s not to say that it will necessarily be bad – in fact, many couples find that they are even happier after having children. But it is a big adjustment, and it’s important to be prepared for it.
Children can be a lot of work, and they will take up a lot of your time. You might not be able to go on as many date nights or romantic getaways, and you’ll probably have to spend more time at home. That’s okay! Just remember that it’s important to make time for each other, even when you’re busy with work and childcare.
Parenting is a team effort, so you and your spouse must be on the same page. If you’re not, it won’t be easy to make things work.
Poop talk is more common than you think.
You read that right – poop talk is more common than you think, particularly among married couples. It’s not always easy to talk about, but it’s important to be open and honest with each other about everything – including your bathroom habits.
It might seem taboo, but many couples find that talking about their bowel movements can be surprisingly liberating. It can also help to foster a deeper level of trust and intimacy.
So if you’re feeling uncomfortable about discussing your bathroom habits with your spouse, just remember that you’re not alone. Many couples have been there before, and many more will surely follow.
Remember, your spouse is the only person who knows you inside and out, so don’t be afraid to share the details of your life with them. It might be uncomfortable at first, but it will only make your relationship stronger in the long run. So go ahead and take the plunge – it just might be the best thing you ever do for your marriage.
You might not always like your in-laws but try to get along.
Your in-laws might not be everything you hoped for, but it’s important to try to get along with them. After all, they are a part of your spouse’s life, and you will be seeing a lot of them.
It can be difficult to deal with differences in opinion, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Many couples have disagreements with their in-laws, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. If you can learn to accept them for who they are, it will make your life a lot easier.
You will have good days and bad days.
Like in any other aspect of life, marriage has its ups and downs. There will be good days when everything seems perfect, and you can’t imagine being with anyone else. And there will be bad days when you just want to scream at each other and throw in the towel.
That’s normal. Every marriage has its share of good days and bad days. What matters is how you handle the bad days. Do you take the time to listen to your spouse and try to understand their perspective? Do you work together to find a solution that works for both of you? Or do you just give up and go your separate ways?
If you want your marriage to last, you need to be willing to work through the tough times and come out stronger on the other side. If you can do that, you will have a happy and healthy marriage. So don’t give up, even when things are tough. Remember that marriages take work, but it’s worth it.
Your spouse can’t read minds.
This is something that I wish someone had told me about marriage. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean your spouse can read minds. You need to communicate with each other if you want your marriage to work.
That means being open and honest about your feelings, even when it’s difficult. It also means being willing to listen to your spouse and try to see things from their perspective. If you can do that, you will be able to avoid many arguments and misunderstandings.
So next time you’re feeling frustrated or misunderstood, take a deep breath and remember that communication is key. Talk to your spouse about what’s going on and try to see things from their point of view.
Don’t take your spouse for granted.
It’s easy to take your spouse for granted, especially if you’ve been together for a long time. But it’s important to remember that marriage is a partnership. That means that you need to put in the effort if you want it to work. So don’t take your spouse for granted. We get used to them always being there, and we might not even realize how much we rely on them until they’re gone.
Show them how much you appreciate them, even if it’s just in little ways. One of the best ways to show your spouse how much you appreciate them is to make an effort to do little things for them every day.
So next time you’re feeling forgetful or thoughtless, take a moment to think about all the things your spouse does for you and make an effort to show your appreciation.
Even though marriage isn’t always easy, it’s worth it. It’s a chance to build a strong and lasting relationship with the person you love. So don’t give up, even when things are tough.
What matters is how you handle the bad days. Do you take the time to listen to your spouse and try to understand their perspective? Do you work together to find a solution that works for both of you? Or do you just give up and go your separate ways?
If you want your marriage to last, you need to be willing to work through the tough times and come out stronger on the other side. If you can do that, you will have a happy and healthy marriage. Thanks for reading! I hope this was helpful.
Marcella Raskin is the founder & editor-in-chief. She is a passionate and articulate writer who has dedicated her life to studying human potential. She has studied Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Life Purpose Coaching, Group Life Coaching. She loves helping women (and men) explore themselves through writing, which allows for an exploration into one’s thoughts on entrepreneurship or personal development topics such as mindset-shaping techniques that can positively shape someone’s perspectives about themselves when they don’t think it could ever happen! She practices sports and has studied Exercise Physiology. She is married and the mother of two girls.