You have been in a long-term relationship for years. It is comfortable and safe, and you are used to sharing your space with this person, just like an old pair of slippers.
If the same old routine becomes too much to bear, these ten tips will help you re-invent your relationship just enough so that it stays fresh and exciting without the need to break up and start all over again:
Start with a clean slate.
It is essential to rid yourselves of all negative feelings from the past. Only when you have done that can you start building a better relationship.
To help the process, you could write all your thoughts and feelings on a piece of paper. Burn this piece of paper and start afresh.
When you are done, you could ask your partner to do the same. It would help if you could both burn your papers together in a bonfire.
Doing this will make you both wipe your slate clean. You can start afresh with a clean bag to put all the good memories, experiences, and future plans in it.
Learn to understand each other.
It is not always easy to understand your partner. You may find that you are like chalk and cheese in some areas, while you can probably throw a coin at the other person’s head if you want to.
If this is the case, do not try to change each other too much or force things on them. Accept it. If you cannot change it, accept it and work around the differences.
If there are areas in which one or both of you can grow, express your willingness to support each other so that this will become a reality.
Understanding your partner can be challenging, but when you understand them, you can appreciate their qualities. It could make your relationship stronger.
Take time for yourself to get to know who you are outside the relationship.
When you are too busy focusing on the other person, it is easy to lose touch with yourself. You may even go so far as to take on some of your partner’s interests or hobbies just because they do them.
Don’t be afraid to find out who you are outside of the relationship. If you don’t, you will end up losing your identity.
It is essential to become independent and learn about yourself without depending too much on your partner. This does not mean you should stop being a couple. It means that you should both take time to find out who you are and what you like before committing yourselves to each other again.
Go out for a Romantic Date Night at Least Once a Week!
This is one of the most important things you can do to re-invent your relationship – going out for a romantic date night together once a week will help reignite sparks within no time.
What’s more, doing it regularly lets you be spontaneous and creative with dates, rather than taking yourselves so seriously all the time!
If you are the type of couple, who does not spend enough time together, or even if you feel like it has been too long since you had some quality private time with your partner, make an extra effort to do so.
Don’t be boring on your date night; think out of the box and find ways to surprise each other. Doing so will keep your relationship fresh and exciting.
Challenge each other.
If you and your partner do not improve yourselves, you will eventually fall into a routine that takes the fun out of things. When this happens, it is easy to stop doing things just for each other as often as before.
To avoid such a scenario, make sure you challenge each other to become better people individually and as a couple. For instance, you could challenge each other to eat healthier or read more frequently and reward yourself for meeting your goals. You can also set a personal goal, like climbing a certain mountain together and fulfilling that dream at the end.
This will re-energize your love life and give you something to look forward to doing together.
Being over-comfortable or complacent with your relationship will make it stale and boring soon enough, which puts an end to the magic that comes out of uncertainty. Make it a point to always keep things fresh and exciting by doing new things together. This will also help improve the sexual aspect of your relationship. If you do not want this to fade away, make sure that both of you are aware of how much effort it takes to keep love alive!
Try New Things Together.
You have grown comfortable with each other over time which is why you may not feel the need to try new things together. Although this is a perfectly healthy safety net for your relationship, it can also hold you back from being able to appreciate everything life has to offer fully.
Visit places or do activities that are exciting for both of you. This will make you feel alive again and bring the fun back into your relationship.
Sometimes, it is also fun to try out new things together.
Try new activities that you both find interesting, and always try to include each other in these activities. This will help you grow closer together as you share the experience.
If one of you is more adventurous than the other, don’t be afraid to encourage your partner to come along for the ride!
Doing this will inject some thrill into your love life and keep things exciting. Try to do this together as often as possible. It could be as simple as going on a hike into the woods or taking up a new sport together. You can also cook together or go camping, which is a great way to have fun and bond with each other again!
Get help when needed.
The most essential thing in any relationship is communication. If there are issues that need to be sorted out or problems that need to be solved, it will help if you discuss things without holding back.
If you need to share something that you are not comfortable talking about with your partner, ask for help from someone who can be impartial. You could also experience relationship problems because you are unwilling to take responsibility for the issues at hand or fear speaking up about them.
If this occurs, it may help to get outside help.
This could be as simple as seeking advice from friends or family members who have been at that stage before or getting professional counseling. Both of these options are harmless enough and can do you a lot of good if you choose to take them. Remember that no one is perfect, not even your partner; it’s okay to ask for help when needed!
Put effort into things.
One thing couples tend to stop doing after a while is trying. For instance, if you and your partner go out for dinner, try to dress up nicely and put effort into your appearance so as not to let the magic of things fade away.
This does not mean that you have to look like movie stars on every single outing together; it just means being considerate towards each other during those times when you are around others.
In addition, try to do the little things that matter more than anything else.
Although these may seem basic or mundane at first glance, they actually speak a thousand words about how much you care for each other. For example, always say ‘good morning’ and ‘good night’ with a kiss when you get out of bed or come home.
You can also try to remember something important about your partner that only the two of you know and surprise them with it later on. Many times, the simplest gestures can make your partner feel special and loved.
As the adage goes, love is not something that you can take for granted.
You must always be willing to work at it by constantly putting in effort and genuinely wanting the best for each other. Doing so will reinforce your love as a couple and strengthen your bond as two individuals who have been through a lot together. All of this comes from maintaining a positive attitude towards each other which translates into genuine affection and care!
A relationship takes two people to keep alive, and both of you need to make a conscious decision to make it work. You can do this by putting in the effort required to keep your love alive and exciting. You can do this by always being attentive to your partner’s needs and asking how to make things better for them. You can also be spontaneous with each other or plan a few trips together every year.
Go on a holiday together.
Taking a holiday together once in a while is another excellent way to re-invent your relationship.
If funds permit, go for holidays abroad where neither of you will be distracted by anything stressful or mundane, which could quickly put strains on your relationship back at home.
All that matters is enjoying time together and having fun with no interruptions whatsoever.
It is always good for a relationship to get away from your routine and spend time exploring new places and doing different things together. This will not only re-invent your relationship but also bring you closer together.
Go on a holiday once every few months. If possible, incorporate the romantic date night into this trip to spice things up!
Keep the bedroom fun.
Continue to use the bedroom as an important place where you bond with each other. Remember, it is not just a place where you sleep, but it is supposed to be an intimate experience only for both of you.
So light those candles and dim those lights because this is an excellent place to express your love and passion for each other! Do not forget to make love as often as you can.
This will help keep the spark alive within your relationship. If you do these things, you can be sure that your relationship with your partner is in the right direction!
Always remember how lucky you are to have found someone who truly cares about you and is willing to fight for your happiness together as one!
To help you re-invent your relationship, we’ve put together a list of 10 tips that can kick-start the process. If one or two resonate with you and inspire you to try something new in your relationship, then it’s been worth it!
What other ways have you found for strengthening relationships? Let us know by commenting on this post!
Marcella Raskin is the founder & editor-in-chief. She is a passionate and articulate writer who has dedicated her life to studying human potential. She has studied Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Life Purpose Coaching, Group Life Coaching. She loves helping women (and men) explore themselves through writing, which allows for an exploration into one’s thoughts on entrepreneurship or personal development topics such as mindset-shaping techniques that can positively shape someone’s perspectives about themselves when they don’t think it could ever happen! She practices sports and has studied Exercise Physiology. She is married and the mother of two girls.