If you’re married, then you know how important it is to keep your marriage interesting. It’s easy to get into a rut with the same old routine, but that can lead to boredom and resentment; the worst combination!
There are lots of ways that couples have found success in keeping their marriages fresh and exciting, so we’ve collected 36 ideas for you here today.
Set aside time every day to talk to each other.
Talking is one of the most important activities in any relationship, especially in marriage. Couples who talk together stay together!
Make it a priority to set aside some time daily for a conversation. It doesn’t have to be long; just 10 minutes is enough of an investment to get the conversation flowing. This tip is all about quality, not quantity.
Introduce spontaneity into your life and schedule “date nights” frequently.
Date nights retain the sense of mystery and anticipation that first drew you to your spouse. They bring back the excitement of dating, as well as reignite your desire for one another.
The more time you spend with each other in different settings, the less likely it is that boredom will settle in. Think outside the box when planning dates; consider trying something new, like a wine tasting or a picnic in the park.
Date nights are great for keeping the spark alive in your marriage. Even if you’ve been together a long time, you can find ways to surprise each other and make date nights unique.
Avoid conflict by giving each other some space every day.
Spending time apart every day allows you to decompress, and process your thoughts and emotions in private and doesn’t give either one of you the opportunity to feel pressured.
It’s important when spending time apart that you don’t shut each other out. Make sure you’re still showing physical affection during this time.
Kissing is one of the best ways to show affection, so don’t be afraid to do it whenever or wherever you feel comfortable.
Incorporate kissing into your daily routine by giving your spouse a kiss every morning before work and when he comes home at night. And when you’re in public, go ahead and sneak a little smooch in there too!
Kissing is one of the most fun, romantic ways to express your love for each other. And it’s easy! Just take a few moments every day for a snuggle, kiss, or embrace.
Build on each other’s interests.
If one of you likes to golf, take up the sport yourself. If your spouse is an animal lover, take her to the petting barn.
Both of you will love each other’s new hobby. And you’ll have a built-in date activity every time he/she invites you to play golf or the next time you go to the zoo together!
Get familiar with your spouse’s favorite activities. If you’ve never danced together, try it! If he loves to watch football or she can’t stop talking about her favorite author, make time to go to the game or read the book together.
Reinvent yourselves as a team.
Work together on projects that are important to both of you. This will help strengthen your relationship and their dependence on one another.
And it’s fun! You’ll find that not only are you building a stronger bond with each other, but you’re also increasing the satisfaction in each other’s lives as well.
It’s easy to fall into the routine of taking your spouse for granted. But reinventing yourselves as a team can bring back that spark you once had.
Be spontaneous and make your spouse laugh.
Laughter is good for your health, both emotional and physical, so don’t take it too seriously when your spouse makes jokes or does something silly.
You’ll find that they are even more likely to act funny around you if you don’t take yourself too seriously either, which will bring you closer together as a couple while strengthening his for you at the same time
Compliment each other, no matter how small the occasion.
When you give each other compliments, it makes your spouse feel good; and feeling good is what happiness is all about.
Complimenting your spouse doesn’t have to be difficult. Anything from telling them how much they mean to you or how beautiful they are, even if they’re getting dressed in the morning, can make their day.
When your spouse gets a promotion or an A on a test, make them feel like the rock stars they are. After all, you wouldn’t be where you are today without them!
As your marriage goes through many milestones and transition periods over time, it can be easy to take each other for granted. Never forget that there are still plenty of things to compliment your spouse about.
The next time they do something great, take a moment to recognize it and tell them why they rock. You’ll be surprised how much their success will make you feel like a winner too!
Make time for cuddling on your couch during the day or before bedtime.
Cuddling with your spouse is one of the most underrated activities that couples take part in. All it takes is a few minutes; you can save this for when you’re just hanging out at home.
All you need to do is snuggle up next to each other on the couch, watch TV together, talk about your day, and cuddle throughout the entire show.
Cuddling with your spouse gives you an opportunity to strengthen bonds, feel loved, and have some intimate time. Cuddle up together any chance you get! Even if it’s only for a little while.
Take your spouse’s breath away with a random act of kindness.
When you do kind things for your spouse without them expecting it, it makes their day and warms their heart.
This could be as simple as boiling a pot of water to make tea or letting them sleep in on the weekend. Any small gesture that shows them that they’re loved and cared about is something they’ll appreciate immensely.
Do something nice for your husband or wife today! You’ll feel great knowing that you made their day.
Whether it’s something as simple as making them lunch or spending your Saturday running errands together, random acts of kindness are often the best ways to show someone you care about them.
And even though these acts might seem small, they mean a lot to your spouse and will make them feel appreciated!
Listen to your spouse when they talk.
Listen carefully when your spouse speaks; try not to interrupt him/her unless absolutely necessary (and only if you do it with love).
Otherwise, make sure you foster an environment of open communication in which he/she feels comfortable expressing her opinions and feelings towards you and important issues with family and friends.
We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve had something on our minds and can’t wait to blurt it out to our significant other. But as much as it may be on our minds, we should wait until the timing is right and they have an opportunity to speak first.
When you let your spouse talk about their feelings first, you’re showing that you not only care about what they have to say but how they feel. And this will make a huge difference in your marriage.
Never let your partner get so comfortable that they feel like a roommate rather than a companion.
There are days when you’re tired, stressed, or just not in the mood to be affectionate with your spouse. But there should always be open communication in your relationship about how much time you spend together and when.
If you don’t make time for your spouse, they may start to feel like a roommate instead of someone who knows all your deep secrets and shares your life with you. Even when you’re not in the mood for it, make sure to always make time for your spouse.
This tip is about not taking each other for granted. You need to show appreciation and love on a daily basis, even if he/she feels like an old friend sometimes.
Go out for coffee once a week at different cafes around town for variety.
Variety is the spice of life, as they say! And that’s why it’s important you don’t do everything together. Get out there and try new things with each other to keep your relationship exciting.
Incorporate this into your regular routine by finding a new cafe every month to visit on those errand days.
Never stop flirting!
When you first started dating, flirting was one of your favorite things to do. But now that you’ve been married for a while, the romance can start to die down.
You need to make sure that your spouse knows how much you appreciate him/her and love them through every stage.
Whether it’s doing something they enjoy or taking the time to look nice for them, you always want your spouse to feel like your most attractive and adored person.
Take this opportunity today and dust off your flirting skills. Flirting can be fun, but it also sends a message to your partner: “I love you and only you.” It adds a little spice to your relationship anytime.
Take a bit of time to show affection during the day. Maybe squeeze his/her hand, give her a wink or kiss him/her on the cheek when no one else is looking.
Don’t forget that physical contact is also important for keeping things spicy!
Spend some quality time together without distractions, such as TV or phones ringing every five seconds.
Whether you’re on a couch watching TV or at the dinner table with a laptop open, distractions will always be around. Make time for each other and give them your undivided attention.
No matter how busy things get in life, both spouses should agree to put everything aside when it’s quality time together. Do this even if that means staying up late or getting up early to make time for each other.
Without distractions, you’ll be able to really enjoy your spouse and the special moments together.
It’s important to spend some time alone, away from screens and other distractions, so you can focus on each other instead. Set aside some time every day that both of you can look forward to.
Playfulness is one of the things that attracted you to your spouse in the first place. So why would you want to stop doing those silly little things that light up your lives?
You don’t have to be a child by any means, but adding some playfulness into everyday life will keep both of you feeling young and free.
Try playing a game together rather than watching TV for an hour before bedtime. Card games are always fun, but even charades or Pictionary are great options too.
You can even switch off and try to guess some of your spouse’s favorite songs or movies or pick out their top three qualities. Not only is this a great way to spend time together, but it will also help you better understand each other and appreciate one another on a deeper level.
Try new things together without worrying about the outcome.
Get out of your comfort zone and try something new! It’s a great way to grow as a couple and broaden your horizons.
If you’ve been dying to take up yoga, join an improv class or even go skydiving, do it together.
Don’t be afraid to try something different with your partner. For example, if you’ve never been fishing but he/she has, don’t be intimidated! Just jump in and go for it. You’ll both enjoy yourselves and get closer than ever as you create memories that will last a lifetime.
Decorate separate corners of the house to make each person an individual space.
You can turn your living room into a family room or hang up a sign to make a little reading nook in the bedroom. These spaces will allow each spouse to have their own corner of the house and retreat for some “me” time when they need it.
This will also help you avoid those awkward moments when your spouse can feel where you’ve been because your scent is all over the place.
You don’t want to make any room off-limits, but having your own space in your house can be crucial for keeping things interesting.
Although you live together, it’s important that each of you has some personal space. Maybe the playroom is his/hers, and the living room is yours, or vice versa. You get what we’re saying!
Be more affectionate.
PDA (public displays of affection) can make your spouse feel really loved and appreciated by you. So even if the world is watching, don’t be afraid to give him/her a kiss or hug in public!
It doesn’t always have to be PDA, though. Even a little hand-holding or a peck on the cheek here and there will show your spouse you’re still attracted to them, and they’re still number one in your heart.
It’s important that you show affection to each other because it will not only strengthen your connection as a couple but also encourage more physical contact between the two of you.
Touching and hugging can be a great way to show how much you love one another, but it’s also good for your own health. Physical affection is proven to lower stress and improve heart rate.
Both parties can benefit from getting a little more touchy-feely in the bedroom. Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay!
Make an “I love you jar” to fill up with little notes about all the things you love about your spouse.
You can decorate the jar and even put it in your special “couple space” to keep things interesting.
Every little note will be a reminder of what you love about your spouse and why you fell in love with them in the first place.
Write a note every day and put it in a jar for your partner to find, or try having him/her do the same! It’s a great way to add some excitement to life.
Give each other a massage.
As you probably already know, massages feel great for both parties.
Different types of massages can help different areas of the body so don’t be afraid to try something new. It doesn’t take long and it will feel so good.
Not only is a massage relaxing, but it’s also a great way to show your spouse how much you appreciate them.
Don’t forget the after-effects of a massage: increased blood flow that results in better flexibility and muscle tone as well as reduced stress and anxiety.
There’s nothing quite as relaxing as having someone else rub your shoulders or give you a foot massage after a long day.
And if you’re feeling really adventurous, there are some great new techniques that can also be fun in the bedroom!
Be open about your fantasies.
Everyone has different fantasies that they may not be comfortable enough to admit.
But, if you want your relationship to stay exciting, it’s important for both parties to feel like the other is willing to listen and work through problems in a healthy way.
If you’re feeling up to sharing your secret desires with your partner, make sure you do in a non-judgmental way that doesn’t put pressure on them or make them uncomfortable.
Talk about how you see yourself getting there and what steps would need to happen next. It can be hard for people when reveal their fantasies because they think the other person will judge them harshly or laugh at them, but communication is always key when it comes to sex!
Sometimes your spouse might want to try something a little different from the usual. Let them know! You never know what you might be missing out on when it comes to the bedroom.
You know your partner’s daily routine inside and out. So, if you usually start your day by making breakfast for your spouse, surprise her by cooking dinner instead.
Be thoughtful about what you do so your partner knows how much effort you put into trying to make them happy.
Always look for ways to keep things fresh and exciting, whether it’s trying something new or leaving for a vacation at the last minute. You’ll love it either way because spontaneity is so much fun!
Get away for a weekend at least once every six months!
Set a regular interval of one week or month where you can get away for a weekend just the two of you. Swap babysitting with another couple whose kids are close in age, and give yourselves a little break from daily life.
A couple’s retreat can be good for both your heads and your hearts.
It’s important to spend some time apart from busy schedules and the day-to-day grind of life, so get away for a couple of days and enjoy each other’s company!
Always have gifts ready for your partner.
Remember how exciting it was to receive gifts when you were dating?
It can be just as exciting now that you’re married.
Make an effort to make your partner feel loved, appreciated, and special throughout the year by trying to come up with little gifts here and there.
Even if it’s not a big present for their birthday or an anniversary, it’s the small things that count.
It’s a great way to show your partner they’re always on your mind, and you appreciate everything they do for you.
Always be thinking about what you can do to show her/him you love them.
It never hurts to have chocolates or flowers ready and waiting for your partner! You could even try hiding little notes around the house so your sweetheart finds them in unexpected places.
Learn how to do something new together.
Take a cooking class, go to an ice skating lesson, take up in-line skating, or learn ballroom dancing. If you like what you try with your spouse, make it a regular date night.
Doing something new will allow you both to learn something new and feel good about yourselves for doing so.
Grab your partner and learn how to dance together or take up a hobby. You’ll get creative with each other while spending quality time together, which is something you shouldn’t miss out on.
Get creative together!
Take a class for painting, pottery, or sculpture. You may find it fun, and you both will learn something new in the process.
Spend time doing things that make you happy and healthy!
If the two of you don’t know what to do together, try something creative; take a dance class, go skating (ice or roller), enroll in a pottery class, or take up something like knitting, sewing, drawing… Remember: when you do things together, it cultivates intimacy and closeness.
Creativity is always a great way to express yourself as an individual and as a couple, whether it’s through cooking, crafting, or gardening.
Some ideas of romantic things to do are: decorate your bedroom with flowers, light candles around the house, go on a picnic in the park with wine and cheese, do nice things for each other every day…
Surprise your spouse with a love note slipped into lunch or dinner, and write flirty e-mails during the day to keep that spark alive. Make time for romance. Take your partner to the movies, plan an outing to a wine-tasting event, or go on a horseback ride.
Couples who are more romantic tend to have stronger relationships. If you keep the romance alive in your relationship, it will last a lifetime.
Remember special dates like your anniversary and celebrate each year just as you would the first time!
If you’re married, celebrate your anniversary! It’s an important reminder of the love you share every single day.
Include special moments from when you were dating, such as going to the fall festival or having a picnic in the park for your anniversary. Don’t forget about anniversaries and other special dates!
If you don’t remember to do it with your spouse, schedule a reminder on your phone or your calendar. This way, you’ll never miss an anniversary again!
Take a trip to a place you’ve always wanted to go, but make sure it’s somewhere your partner will enjoy too.
It doesn’t have to be an expensive trip to Paris or somewhere foreign, but even a little weekend getaway will do the trick.
It’s good for you both to take time off work and spend some special alone time together. It’s also a great way to strengthen your relationship by doing something different! You’ll get to experience something new together and build memories you’ll cherish for a lifetime.
Take the time to find somewhere both of you will enjoy, and make sure you make each other your priority.
Traveling is always a great way to grow closer as you share new experiences together. So go somewhere you’ve both wanted to visit for ages!
Give back to others together.
Do volunteer work or fundraising events together instead of doing your own thing separately. It will make you feel closer and give you something else to talk about besides yourself!
It’s important to give back to others in your lives and around the world, so share the opportunity to serve with your loved one! If you both feel passionate about an organization or mission use that as a way to bond over doing good for the greater good of society.
Be appreciative of small gestures of love.
Be sure to tell your partner how much you appreciate them, and then prove it by showing it!
It’s important to take time each day to look for the little things that build intimacy with your spouse. If you’ve been struggling with finding ways to spice up your marriage, try stopping and really noticing the small things that enhance your love.
Like making coffee in the morning or taking out the trash without being asked for an example.
Even if it’s just a text message or an e-mail saying “I love you,” always let your partner know how much you appreciate them. Show affection rather than just telling about it!
A little appreciation can go a long way. Never forget how lucky you are to have your spouse by your side every day.
Never forget to say, “I love you.”
Every day make it a point to tell your spouse how much you love them. You may forget or get busy with other things, but this is the one way to show that you care about your love and appreciate him/her for who they are.
The most beautiful words in the world are “I love you.” Sometimes we take our spouses for granted and forget to say those words, but it is important to make a habit of saying them every day.
You may not see your spouse all day or even for a week, but if they’re going through a tough time that’s usually when those three words go a long way.
Always say “I love you” with a kiss, a hug, or even just a text message. It doesn’t have to be complicated!
Cook together at least one new recipe each week.
Having a meal that you share together is a great way to start your day.
Even if it’s breakfast, make sure to cook together at least once a week.
Everyone has to eat, so why not take the opportunity to spend some quality time with your spouse! Get into the kitchen together; you’ll build momentum after making several new recipes.
The only thing better than an amazing meal is one that has been made by your love.
Try out a new recipe or two once a week to keep things fresh! It’s not only healthy for your body, but it can be a great way to connect with your spouse.
Cooking together is an important part of any relationship! Not only will you get to spend some time together in the kitchen, but you’ll also get to chow down on something homemade.
Take baths together.
Create the perfect ambiance when you’re in the shower for this self-care time.
It doesn’t have to be extravagant – simply light some candles, play relaxing music, and pour some bubbles into the bathtub.
Turn off the lights, dim the candles, and put on some romantic music.
Baths are a great way to relax both your mind and body after a long day! Create the perfect atmosphere by dimming the lights, playing soothing music, and adding in some fun bubbles to make it something special.
The mood is set for a romantic evening when you turn off the lights, play some slow music, and add some bubbles to your bathtub.
Make it a priority to have sex every day! Sex is one of the best ways to show your spouse that they’re loved and desired. It strengthens intimacy in your relationship, so don’t let months go by without having sex with your husband or wife.
Sex isn’t just about making babies; it’s also an important part of maintaining a healthy marriage. If you wait until you “have time,” you may never get around to it because other demands on your time will always seem more pressing than being intimate with your spouse.
You can come up with creative ways of doing it in the bedroom by yourself or go out and hit up the local hotel room – just make sure that you’re not breaking any laws while enjoying some bonding time together.
Your partner should always come before anything else, so make sure the two of you are satisfied with all aspects of your life. Don’t wait until things get busy or stressful – set aside some time in the morning, during lunch break at work, in the afternoon after work – remember that both partners need lovin’!!
The most important aspect of any relationship is keeping that physical connection. Maintaining an active sex life is incredibly important for staying connected.
We hope these 36 tips have inspired you to try something new in your relationship.
You don’t need to take on all of them at once, but if one seems like it might be a good fit for you two, give it a shot!
And let us know how things go, so we can share some more ways with the rest of our readers, too.
Joanna Perez is a Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Practitioner, a passionate blogger, writer, traveler, wife, and mother of one boy. Joanna loves to share her thoughts on parenting, health, wellness, and lifestyle.
She is a Certified Women Empowerment Life Coach and has done courses on Life Mastery, Happiness, Health, and Success. She also has studied Neuroscience for Parents and took the Skilled Helper Training Course.
She believes in helping people become the best version of themselves and strives to provide quality informative and inspiring content. She loves animals, especially her two cats, and can often be found taking photos of them as they pose for the camera.