10 Proven Ways to Get your Partner to Wash Dishes

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Do you find yourself doing more of the dishes than your partner? Do you find that they never want to do them, no matter how often you ask? This blog post will give 10 proven ways to get a partner or spouse to wash dishes. You’ll be able to stop feeling frustrated in just a few minutes!

Be kind

Washing Dishes

Being kind can be a game-changer when dealing with someone who doesn’t want to do the dishes. If they think that doing the dishes makes you angry or upset, they will probably not feel good about it themselves either. Make sure being kind always comes first before anything else.

Partners are not mind-readers. If they don’t know you want them to do the dishes, how could they possibly start? Even if your partner sees you doing all of the dishes, it doesn’t mean that’s what they should be doing too! Rather than being irritated or upset with your significant other for never washing any dirty dishes, try communicating this need of yours clearly and concisely.

Make a schedule

One way to ensure that the dishes always get done is by creating a dishwashing schedule. This will ensure that both of you are taking turns and that no one feels like they’re doing all the work. You can either create this on your own or with help from your partner.

This can be as simple as designing certain days of the week for dish duty or even setting a timer to ensure everything gets done promptly.

Making a schedule can be a great way to get your partner on board with the dishes. They will know what to expect and feel they have some control over the situation. You’ll also both get the dishes done without any arguments!

Make yourself unavailable periodically.

This is a tactic that I have personally used, and it has worked like a charm. Basically, you make yourself unavailable to do the dishes for a certain amount of days each week. This could mean going to a friend’s house or going for an early morning jog. You can even go out and do errands that take up your time, like grocery shopping or going to the bank.

Your partner will see that you’re not doing the dishes, and they might start feeling a bit of pressure to do them themselves. They will also start to see that you’re not available to do them every single day, which means they can’t always put it off on you.

You also need to make them clear that you will be unavailable for a certain amount of days each week, and they must do the dishes on those days; otherwise, they might not take you seriously.

Bribe them

This one might seem a bit harsh, but it can be an effective way to get someone to do something they don’t want to do. Offer them a bribe in exchange for them doing the dishes. This can be anything from taking out the trash to buying their favorite food.

If you know your partner loves spending time outdoors, offer to take them on a hike or buy tickets to a baseball game in exchange for washing the dishes. The possibilities are endless!

It doesn’t have to be something big, but just knowing that they’ll get something they want can be incentive enough for them to start washing dishes without any arguments. Just make sure the bribe is worth their time and effort!

Make the dishes fun.

If you and your partner are sick of doing all of the dishes, why not try making it more exciting for both of you? This could be as simple as turning on some music while you’re washing the dishes or talking about what you did that day. 

You might also want to put on your favorite Netflix show or a TV show that you both enjoy. 

It doesn’t matter how you decide to make doing the dishes feel more fun, just as long as it helps you and your partner enjoy this task a little bit more.

 These “entertainment” factors will help make the task at hand more bearable and make doing the dishes a lot more enjoyable for both of you.

Do some chore wheel.

Dishwasher

A chore wheel is another great way to make dishwashing fun. This can be something that you both create together or take the initiative yourself. The point is to make sure that both of you are doing dishes and creating a schedule together.

This can be done by writing down all the household chores on individual cards or pieces of paper and then putting them all in a jar. From there, you’ll take turns pulling out the chore cards and doing whatever task is written on them.

This can be a great way to make sure that everyone is contributing equally and no one feels overwhelmed by the amount of work they have to do. It can also be a fun way for you and your partner to spend some time together!

Creating a chore wheel for your household is an effective way to ensure all of the chores get done and everyone feels like they’re sharing in the load. Other ways to do the chore wheel are by drawing straws, taking turns picking out a chore, or even playing rock-paper-scissors to see who does the dishes!

Show them how it’s done.

Another way to get your partner to start doing the dishes is by showing them how it’s done. This could mean setting a good example for them or just telling them what you do to get the dishes done.

You could also share tips and tricks on making the dishwashing process go a little bit faster or easier. This can be helpful for those who seem to struggle with doing the dishes on their own.

Try to find gadgets or tools that might make the process easier and show them how to use them. If your partner sees that you’re not stressed out by dishwashing and that it’s a simple task, then they’ll be more likely to want to help out!

Praise them

One of the best ways to get someone to do something is by praising them for doing it. This can be done after they’ve washed the dishes or even while they’re in the process of doing them.

Make sure to praise them for their efforts. This will let them know that you appreciate what they’ve done, and it might encourage them to do more!

You can either do this verbally or with a gesture like giving them a hug or a kiss. Letting them know that you’re grateful for their help will make them feel good, and they’ll be more likely to want to do the dishes again in the future.

Wash half of the dishes and let them finish.

Wash half of the dishes and let them finish

This is another solution that might help your partner get more interested in doing the dishes. The idea here is to half-wash the dishes and then let them finish.

If you’re both working together on it, then it can be an excellent way for you two to bond!

This might seem like it’s not doing much, but if they see that you’re making an effort to do some of the work, they’ll be more likely to do it themselves.

If your partner doesn’t seem interested in doing the dishes, this might help them get more involved in the process. Just make sure that you’re both doing an equal amount of work!

Buy new appliances

If all of the above solutions don’t seem to be working, you might want to consider buying some new appliances. This can be a great way to get your partner excited about doing the dishes.

There are a lot of different dishwashers and dishwashing machines on the market these days that are both affordable and easy to use. If your partner loves gadgets or is always looking for ways to make life easier, then this could be the perfect solution for them!

Conclusion

There are many different ways to get your partner excited about doing the dishes.

Depending on what works best for your household, you could try all of these solutions or just a couple.

The most important thing is to be patient and keep trying until you find a solution that works for both of you!

Who does the dishes in your house? If you have any other solutions that have worked well for you, please share them in the comments below! We would love to hear from you!

Happy dishwashing! 

Author

  • Marcella Raskin is the founder & editor-in-chief. She is a passionate and articulate writer who has dedicated her life to studying human potential. She has studied Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Life Purpose Coaching, Group Life Coaching. She loves helping women (and men) explore themselves through writing, which allows for an exploration into one's thoughts on entrepreneurship or personal development topics such as mindset-shaping techniques that can positively shape someone's perspectives about themselves when they don't think it could ever happen! She practices sports and has studied Exercise Physiology. She is married and the mother of two girls.

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